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Очень интересный разбор отношений и проблем Скотта и Стайлза с позиции мужская роль/женская роль.
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Написано автором как объяснение того, почему Стайлз больше возится с Лиамом не смотря на первоначальный антогонизм.
The main difference between Scott and Stiles, the one I haven’t seen mentioned, is that Scott is from a fatherless home while Stiles is from a motherless home.
Bear with me while I go deep into the distinctions of their growing up.
(the thing got enormous, but I have no clue how to put it under the cut, sorry!)
Scott: asthmatic, in a home with a single mom working over-time to get them by. Just the fact that he’s asthmatic already makes Mellisa treat him more often with kid gloves than a single mom of a healthy child would.
I know fandom sees her as a veritable “dragon lady”(and I’m not saying she isn’t), but the fact of the matter is that she was left alone with a chronically ill child. That doesn’t mean they’re not a team; as we see many times, Mellisa has a close relationship with Scott, they talk a lot, she tries to explain everything, to be there for him. We know she takes being a mother very seriously, but she still doesn’t truly get Scott to help her out. She does most–if not all–the housework. Scott is quite possibly only responsible for his own room and maybe occasionally for helping clean the house. What I’m saying is, Scott has been given(or even, he had inherited) the role of a “man” in their household and so he has a certain level of freedom and is somewhat unburdened with “taking care of people”. He does help out money-wise–he takes on a “breadwinner” role. He is also very privileged in the sense that he can’t truly understand that others might need him as more than a protector, which is something he readily becomes. He tries in season 3 to become a “better everything”, but he messes up because he still doesn’t completely understand–and can’t for the life of him–fully take on the nurturing role.
Protector, yes. The “man of the house”, yes. The leader, sure. Nurturer? Nope. In contrast to Stiles, he is the man. He does what he thinks is right, no apologies. Not until he truly comes to realise his actions have gone counter to his “protecting people” thing. He does it all for the sake of protecting and so, he feels whatever he does is justified, right until he gets slapped in the face with the repercussions of his choices. Which doesn’t happen too often, but when it does, he breaks down and goes “mea culpa” on himself to the point where he becomes a swordsman without a sword; a protector with no way to protect those he deems his responsibility.
Also, why does he give people “the benefit of the doubt”? Because they plead to his role of the protector. They make him grab onto that role more firmly, and as someone who had been chronically ill, he knows what it’s like to need help, to need protection. And having had the bite cure him and fully giving him the role of the protector, he feels the need to fulfill it(more fully than he could have before the bite). And instead of giving them “the bite”–teaching them how to protect themselves, or just supporting them when they need him to, he takes on everything that he can. Which rarely ends well.
Stiles: his mom dies, leaving him with a law officer father. The fact that his mom died does not immediately put him in the role of the woman of the house, but the fact that his dad has a risky, time-consuming job pushes him there. He has to take care of not only himself, but his dad as well(the house, the meals, his schoolwork….).
That kind of conditioning grows quickly in a child’s mind. Waaaay too quickly. That also makes him more aware of people around him in the way that he has a “nurturing radar”. Meaning? He can smell people who need to be nurtured from miles away. Scott definitely came up on his radar, possibly right after his dad left the McCall household. But being that Scott’s condition wasn’t only emotional, but also physical, Stiles goes from a nurturing role to a lioness role. He not only nurtures and takes care of Scott, but he also protects him like a lioness protects her cub(s). That makes him distrust people getting close to Scott, especially if their first impressions weren’t stellar. Having years of being in the role of the lioness, Stiles is highly possessive of Scott, as well.
The bite and Scott’s healing makes him take on a more of a woman role, the nurturer without the protector. Suddenly, Scott is off his leash and Stiles’ words carry no weight. We see that with the Sheriff, he trusts the man(Scott) and questions the woman(Stiles), only listening to the woman if the man says it’s all right. Take this into consideration–Scott followed Stiles everywhere because he felt he had a certain debt to him for his nurturing, but the moment he feels he doesn’t need the nurturing, he starts more readily questioning Stiles and asserting his own thoughts/opinions. He feels he has finally become fully the man and so he has no need for the motherly figure that was Stiles.
Stiles, on the other hand, had always been blamed for the crazy schemes– which would never have played out had he not had the company(Scott is not just his company, but also the audience to Stiles’ mischief). Him being made into the nurturer by circumstance made him lash out in different ways in his quest for freedom–being the nurturer is an emotionally heavy duty. If you have trouble imagining this, think of Stiles being played by a girl. You can clearly see her adventure-seeking as a way out from all the burdens she has taken on herself from fear of losing people again.
Now, in later seasons, we see Stiles getting increasingly more dissatisfied with his new role and also getting more subdued, followed by intense outbursts releasing all his frustrations in a single go. Scott is seen taking even more of his protector role, not realising he’s falling into the “my word is law”/”I do it to protect you” mindset of the man. They’re still dancing around each other because Stiles has a hard time being only the nurturer, instead of the lioness he had gotten used to being and who had made him feel more in control.
Scott, on the other hand, is loving his new role, which makes for a lot of missteps and unintentionally disastrous mistakes. Like in any family, they need to rely on each other, listen to each other, trust and respect each other for the relationship to work. Now, they’re just two halves cracked down the middle and pulling away from each other, Scott pulling away while Stiles tries to grab on.
SO, the Malia/Liam nurturing doesn’t come as a surprise as he gets even more aware that Scott is breaking away and Stiles just can’t fully step away from the role he had had for so long. He probably wouldn’t have taken on nurturing Liam had Scott not broken away even further(he’s not cooperating in making their plans, Stiles is the only one feverishly grabbing onto their relationship; Scott’s got the need to spread his wings–again(even though he is a bit better), he still has not fully grasped the concept of nurturing). As we remember, he wasn’t really keen on Liam right after he showed up. He did get slightly better after he realised Scott had no clue what to do, but he was still in lioness mode, protecting Scott and lashing out at him for the mistakes he made(the I.E.D. scene in the showers).
The fandom saying things like “Tfw your parents fight” on the gifs of Liam sitting in the jeep as S&S fight is closer to the truth than maybe they even realise.
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англ
Написано автором как объяснение того, почему Стайлз больше возится с Лиамом не смотря на первоначальный антогонизм.
The main difference between Scott and Stiles, the one I haven’t seen mentioned, is that Scott is from a fatherless home while Stiles is from a motherless home.
Bear with me while I go deep into the distinctions of their growing up.
(the thing got enormous, but I have no clue how to put it under the cut, sorry!)
Scott: asthmatic, in a home with a single mom working over-time to get them by. Just the fact that he’s asthmatic already makes Mellisa treat him more often with kid gloves than a single mom of a healthy child would.
I know fandom sees her as a veritable “dragon lady”(and I’m not saying she isn’t), but the fact of the matter is that she was left alone with a chronically ill child. That doesn’t mean they’re not a team; as we see many times, Mellisa has a close relationship with Scott, they talk a lot, she tries to explain everything, to be there for him. We know she takes being a mother very seriously, but she still doesn’t truly get Scott to help her out. She does most–if not all–the housework. Scott is quite possibly only responsible for his own room and maybe occasionally for helping clean the house. What I’m saying is, Scott has been given(or even, he had inherited) the role of a “man” in their household and so he has a certain level of freedom and is somewhat unburdened with “taking care of people”. He does help out money-wise–he takes on a “breadwinner” role. He is also very privileged in the sense that he can’t truly understand that others might need him as more than a protector, which is something he readily becomes. He tries in season 3 to become a “better everything”, but he messes up because he still doesn’t completely understand–and can’t for the life of him–fully take on the nurturing role.
Protector, yes. The “man of the house”, yes. The leader, sure. Nurturer? Nope. In contrast to Stiles, he is the man. He does what he thinks is right, no apologies. Not until he truly comes to realise his actions have gone counter to his “protecting people” thing. He does it all for the sake of protecting and so, he feels whatever he does is justified, right until he gets slapped in the face with the repercussions of his choices. Which doesn’t happen too often, but when it does, he breaks down and goes “mea culpa” on himself to the point where he becomes a swordsman without a sword; a protector with no way to protect those he deems his responsibility.
Also, why does he give people “the benefit of the doubt”? Because they plead to his role of the protector. They make him grab onto that role more firmly, and as someone who had been chronically ill, he knows what it’s like to need help, to need protection. And having had the bite cure him and fully giving him the role of the protector, he feels the need to fulfill it(more fully than he could have before the bite). And instead of giving them “the bite”–teaching them how to protect themselves, or just supporting them when they need him to, he takes on everything that he can. Which rarely ends well.
Stiles: his mom dies, leaving him with a law officer father. The fact that his mom died does not immediately put him in the role of the woman of the house, but the fact that his dad has a risky, time-consuming job pushes him there. He has to take care of not only himself, but his dad as well(the house, the meals, his schoolwork….).
That kind of conditioning grows quickly in a child’s mind. Waaaay too quickly. That also makes him more aware of people around him in the way that he has a “nurturing radar”. Meaning? He can smell people who need to be nurtured from miles away. Scott definitely came up on his radar, possibly right after his dad left the McCall household. But being that Scott’s condition wasn’t only emotional, but also physical, Stiles goes from a nurturing role to a lioness role. He not only nurtures and takes care of Scott, but he also protects him like a lioness protects her cub(s). That makes him distrust people getting close to Scott, especially if their first impressions weren’t stellar. Having years of being in the role of the lioness, Stiles is highly possessive of Scott, as well.
The bite and Scott’s healing makes him take on a more of a woman role, the nurturer without the protector. Suddenly, Scott is off his leash and Stiles’ words carry no weight. We see that with the Sheriff, he trusts the man(Scott) and questions the woman(Stiles), only listening to the woman if the man says it’s all right. Take this into consideration–Scott followed Stiles everywhere because he felt he had a certain debt to him for his nurturing, but the moment he feels he doesn’t need the nurturing, he starts more readily questioning Stiles and asserting his own thoughts/opinions. He feels he has finally become fully the man and so he has no need for the motherly figure that was Stiles.
Stiles, on the other hand, had always been blamed for the crazy schemes– which would never have played out had he not had the company(Scott is not just his company, but also the audience to Stiles’ mischief). Him being made into the nurturer by circumstance made him lash out in different ways in his quest for freedom–being the nurturer is an emotionally heavy duty. If you have trouble imagining this, think of Stiles being played by a girl. You can clearly see her adventure-seeking as a way out from all the burdens she has taken on herself from fear of losing people again.
Now, in later seasons, we see Stiles getting increasingly more dissatisfied with his new role and also getting more subdued, followed by intense outbursts releasing all his frustrations in a single go. Scott is seen taking even more of his protector role, not realising he’s falling into the “my word is law”/”I do it to protect you” mindset of the man. They’re still dancing around each other because Stiles has a hard time being only the nurturer, instead of the lioness he had gotten used to being and who had made him feel more in control.
Scott, on the other hand, is loving his new role, which makes for a lot of missteps and unintentionally disastrous mistakes. Like in any family, they need to rely on each other, listen to each other, trust and respect each other for the relationship to work. Now, they’re just two halves cracked down the middle and pulling away from each other, Scott pulling away while Stiles tries to grab on.
SO, the Malia/Liam nurturing doesn’t come as a surprise as he gets even more aware that Scott is breaking away and Stiles just can’t fully step away from the role he had had for so long. He probably wouldn’t have taken on nurturing Liam had Scott not broken away even further(he’s not cooperating in making their plans, Stiles is the only one feverishly grabbing onto their relationship; Scott’s got the need to spread his wings–again(even though he is a bit better), he still has not fully grasped the concept of nurturing). As we remember, he wasn’t really keen on Liam right after he showed up. He did get slightly better after he realised Scott had no clue what to do, but he was still in lioness mode, protecting Scott and lashing out at him for the mistakes he made(the I.E.D. scene in the showers).
The fandom saying things like “Tfw your parents fight” on the gifs of Liam sitting in the jeep as S&S fight is closer to the truth than maybe they even realise.
[x]
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